I recently read a book called the 4 C’s Formula by Dan Sullivan of the Strategic Coach. It is such a simple concept but it was like an AHA moment for me. The basis of the book is that, when achieving goals or trying to make things happen there are 4 C’s that you go through (and in this order) – Commitment, Courage, Capability and Confidence. I think this book really struck me as I have been going through this cycle a lot lately. The really huge message that I got out of this is that you need the Courage before you will have the Capability. And I think this is what stops most people from reaching their goals. People think that because they don’t have the Capability or Confidence to do something that they can’t or shouldn’t do it. You will never have the Capability or Confidence to do something until you do it and you will never do it until you have the Courage. Seems really simple when I say it but in reality we struggle with it.
It always seems impossible until it’s done ~ Nelson Mandela
If your goal is to run a 5K race but your excuse is that you don’t know how to run, you are lacking the Capability (running) and obviously the Confidence (believing that you can do it). You will never know how to run until… well until you run! So you start off running some distance less than 5K, say 1K and you just build on that. It’s not expected that when you have a goal you will just be able to do it. You work towards it. Step small. The problem is most of us forget that part and think, because we can’t accomplish the end result today, that we can’t do it ever.
I certainly went through this cycle when starting this blog. I made the Commitment to myself that I was going to do it but I had zero Capability. I had never written a post before, I had only ever read a handful of blogs… ever. I had no idea how long a post was supposed to be, how often I should post, what I should write about… zero Capability (and for the record there is no right answer to any of those questions!) But I somehow found the Courage and just started doing it. As I write each week my Capability increases. And this is post #15 and people are still reading it so my confidence is growing. And this is how we grow. By constantly pushing ourselves to do things that we didn’t know how to do yesterday. By making what seemed impossible, possible, just by doing it. And the beauty of it is as your Confidence grows your next Commitment gets bigger!
I definitely needed Courage to start this blog. I was definitely stepping into fear. I was definitely stepping out of the comfort zone.
Was it scary? Yes. Did I know what I was doing? No. Can I imagine now, not having this outlet and not having the ability to let you know what I’m thinking? Absolutely not! You see, if we go back to the picture in my first post, when you get out of your comfort zone, that is definitely where the magic happens! You need to try it… it’s awesome! Scary, but awesome!
Think about something that you’ve wanted to do but haven’t done. Why haven’t you done it? What’s stopping you? Is it because you don’t know how to do it? Is it because you don’t think you can do it? Remember, the Courage comes before the Capability and Confidence. Just take the first step… Just Do It!
Imagine a new story for your life and start living it ~ Paulo Coelho